Becoming a parent, whether for the first time or twentieth time, is an exciting, nerve wracking, incredible experience. There’s a lot that goes into being a supportive partner both throughout pregnancy and labor. It is challenging to be going through this experience with them while trying to remain strong and calm for your partner. Seeing your partner in discomfort can be really taxing, but it’s important to support them and remember that you will get through it together. Taking care of yourself is an important first step to being a great birth partner!
Other things you can do include:
Educate and familiarize yourself with the labor and birth process, as well as your partner’s personal birth plan
Avoid eating loud or smelly foods
Use a calm, quiet voice
Use light, reassuring touch
Belly lifts, hip squeezes, and counterpressure can all feel really good during labor, there are instructional videos on YouTube you can watch
Avoid telling family and friends about how everyone is doing until your partner is ready
Rest when you can, but be ready to be present when your partner needs you
Avoid talking or making loud noises during contractions
Avoid complaining about your own discomfort
Help your partner communicate their wishes to the medical staff, friends and family particularly if they have trouble advocating for themselves
Most importantly, remember that this is an important experience for you too! Take some time to prepare yourself as well during your partner’s pregnancy and be excited with your partner in sharing this wonderful experience.